When asked, most people will say that when their parents get to an age when they can no longer care for themselves, they will step up and do whatever they have to do to make sure they are safe. However, caring for an elderly family member in your own home or in theirs can be one of the most emotionally and physically draining responsibilities that you ever take on. Unfortunately, if you feel like you can't handle the task on your own, your loved one may resist the idea of in-home care from a stranger. There are a few easy tips to keep in mind when dealing with a stubborn refusal of in-home care by an elderly parent.
1. Ask, don't tell.
If you just take the initiative to hire someone to come in and help from an alternative nursing company without first discussing the situation with your parent, there is a bigger chance they will be offended by the whole situation. Instead, it is a much better idea to strike up a conversation first about getting someone to help out with their personal care needs. Instead of making it about why they need help, focus on explaining that you are having a difficult time with the situation. Your parent will feel much better about allowing someone into their home for care if they feel like they are part of the decision.
2. Work with a physician to help your elderly parent understand the necessity.
In some cases, part of the stubborn resistance will come from your loved one not taking what you have to say seriously about their medical condition. By the time your parent reaches the age when they are having problems caring for themselves, they will also likely be pretty set in their own ideas and outlook. However, they will be much more accepting of alternative nursing services if the recommendation comes from a physician they trust. Call up their doctor and try to get them on board with you to convince your loved one that they do need some help and supervision around the house.
3. Explain the alternatives to in-home care.
If your loved one cannot tolerate a nurse or caregiver in their home to help, the next logical step is usually a nursing home, which is even more likely to be an idea your parent will not like. Therefore, it is a good idea to be open about the fact that if in-home care is not accepted, a nursing home may be the only other option available.
For more information, contact a company like Alternative Nursing Services.